I just want to start by saying (with not much humility) I just completed several exams where my abilities were assessed by Master Certified Coaches as “good enough” to receive my PCC or Professional Certified Coach for the ICF otherwise know as the International Coach Federation, the first and largest Association of Coaches worldwide!
This exam triggered an old self-limiting belief of “am I good enough”? It started with questioning myself if I really wanted this designation. From the time I started taking coaching courses, of which I have received certification from three. I had always wanted PROOF– it would be the degree I never received.
It only took a couple of hours to find that courageous woman inside and remind her she was indeed good enough. I took the Ethics exam first and passed! It was the beginning of the end. Then the second and third parts were to be done within the week, back to back, during a time I was at an event with many other coaches and friends.
With only an hour before the exam I could barely breathe so I reached out to my Mentor Coach where I took The Professional Leadership Coach Training (best program for coaches), who asked me if Max (my dog) could use a walk. “Always!” was the answer and off we went.
On this fresh air walk and sniff (the sniffing was Max) I recalled a conversation I had with a long time client earlier in the week. It was about how each of us defines “good enough”. Perfectionists have a difficult time with this as good enough is not perfect and they never or rarely hit. I have been told it is their personal HELL.
Each of us has an opportunity to look at our translation of “good enough” but also to redesign it. In the FREE Dictionary online it means “adequately good for the circumstances.” What is wrong with that! More than that is a waste of time and energy that could be put to use elsewhere, don’t you think? Better is unnecessary.
If you think about whether YOU are “good enough” as a human being, which is where we go when we can be triggered by an old belief, how well do you measure up? My guess is you fail miserably. That is how I felt and some of my clients, too!
What if what you do and who you are, given the set of circumstances and experiences and the current situation, how you show up right now is truly “good enough”? It could be as good as, better, or worse than yesterday or tomorrow, but it is your best at this moment. How would that feel? How would you experience this moment in that context? Is there room in your current experience for this shift?
We were not likely told that what we did or who we were was good enough. Many of us heard things like; you can do better, try harder, thats not good enough. You could study harder, eat better or work harder and be more focused. Does any of this sound familiar? You may even be saying it to yourself! I believe someone else installed those beliefs some time ago. NEGATIVE NELLY is the name I fondly give my internal critic and nay-sayer. Gratefully, I recognize her and can still be courageous. Occasionally she shows up to sabotage my current desires and wants like my PCC. HA!
I coached a gracious client on a conference call line for twenty minutes then she left and five minutes later I was coaching one of the 2 examiners for an additional 20 minutes. I know I did the best I could at the time. Then I waited a short time while I regulated my breathing and heartbeat and made a cup of tea. My husband was close at hand to talk while I waited.
In less than 2 hours, I received a call from my Mentor Coach Cynthia Calluori, who told me that I passed! I was ecstatic and definitely on Cloud 9 or 99, who knows but I was proud of myself. I was afraid and did it anyway. I know the best I could do was my best that day, whatever that was to be. Was I perfect? Nope! As a matter of fact I made some of the same mistakes I made on another certification last year. What I do know is that I was and always will be “good enough!”
Please leave a comment about what GOOD ENOUGH means to you or the shift this may have made for you. I am interested and love supporting you.
With Love and Care, Tam