Am I worth reflecting?
I read a blog post called “Clouds in a Cup” that sent me off on a reflection about reflecting.
I love it when I see the reflection of something beautiful in a window, mirror or any shiny surface worthy of it. It doubles the pleasure! Sometimes it is just like the blogger on “Love out Loud” that noticed the reflection first then took the time to enjoy it when she noticed the simple pleasure of the reflection of the clouds in her tea cup on a lovely spring day.
There are other kinds of reflections as well. I have been known to do some reflecting on the past. Past events, past reactions or responses, even past issues that seem to have re-surfaced…yet again, seem to be right there to see even if I don’t want to. These can be opportunities to see repetitive behaviours that may need amending lest they torture us for the rest of our born days.
I do love to reflect back on some of the most joyous events of my life as well. The birth of each of my sons, my weddings (Yes there were 2- the second relationship with my beloved has stuck for over 21 years!) holidays with friends and family, even time on my own that was impactful can come rushing to me in those moments.
I sometimes look at my relationships and reflect on how much I am truly involved in each of them. Am I doing my part to nurture them? Am I taking them for granted? Are they relationships that are good for both parties, or have they changed as we all do over time? Is it time to let them go on their way or do I want to step up? There is a lot to reflect on here, really!
I wonder if I am reflecting well in others. Am I seeing my mood reflected in others and is it something I am pleased about? I realize that when I am in conflict with another I may have either picked up their reflection or vice versa. This most often happens with the one who is closest, my beloved. I would love to say that if it is unpleasant, it’s his dark cloud reflection that is responsible. But it is not always true, it may have been mine. (Sssh, don’t tell him I said that!) It also may have been that I chose to engage and be that shiny reflection for him. Why couldn’t I choose to reflect back love and care, empathy and understanding instead of judgment and perhaps criticism and ridicule?
Awareness of this will allow me to notice earlier when this choice on reflecting could just happen. I can have that cuppa tea and look deep into it to see if it’s my grey cloud. I have been known to laugh at the drama and change my beloved’s spirit to something fun then he wasn’t so serious about “the stuff”. It never matters what the stuff is, just that I have a REAL choice that only takes a moment to decide what kind of reflection it will be.
If I choose to live in love, peace and harmony, I too can look into that cuppa tea and see a warm reflection of myself. I can laugh at my imperfections and be grateful for yet another moment in love with life. I can look for a smile in there and enjoy that moment too, can you?